Bouncing Back From Tough Times

October 13th, 2014

Everyone in life as some point is going to experience failure. In fact if you’re reading this you’re probably the type of person that fails more often then you’ve succeed. Failure is just a large part of life, I don’t need to know you or know your story to know that failure is apart of your life. I’m sure you have experienced this familiar set-up; you have an exciting goal in mind; you’ve done your homework; you think you’re amply prepared… but things just don’t work out. You’ve probably had times when you thought you were doing what you were supposed to do, but you were misinformed. You thought you had it all laid out, but it just didn’t work. You burned the midnight oil day after day after day, but it didn’t seem to help. You couldn’t seem to change the end result.

These are the times when you have to be your own best cheerleader. And there are two ways to keep yourself encouraged:

1. Take responsibility for the missed opportunity or the misrepresentation. Learn from the fact that even though you made the best presentation possible, your client wanted it a different way. Be prepared for the letdowns that happen every so often. Know that this lost opportunity just set you up to take advantage of the next one. Make the changes that will make the difference. Instead of dwelling on the mistakes, simply acknowledge them and learn from them.

2. Remind yourself that you’re bound to get better. Don’t get down on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s the next opportunity that matters, not the last one. The last one matters only in that you must learn from your mistakes. But the next one gives you the opportunity to make the necessary alterations, to show that you have learned from your mistakes. You can do it better next time. You just have to practice. Keep trying until. Until what? Until you’ve got it down.

3. Realize you’ve come along away. Trying and failing is much better then not trying at all. Realize that life is about the journey and not the event. Success is not a single event but several events over an extended period of time. Failing hundreds of times is insignificant in the big picture of your life.

4. Embrace the Changes you need to make.  There is a reason you failed, and typically you habits and skill set is a large part of that reason. I know alot of people say “it’s not you that’s failing”, well I would say, it is your fault. It is not a reflection of what you could possibly achieve, you are not a “failure in life” however you did fail at this task and that is a reflection of your current skill set in life. Typically for you to turn your failures into a triumph you’re going to need to get better and that’s going to require change both in you and with things around you.

If you figured out what went wrong last time, then you know how to make it right next time. If you figured out what it was in your presentation that didn’t work, don’t say that next time. If you figured out that the reason you didn’t close the deal this time was because you didn’t have all the facts and figures in place, have all the facts and figures in place next time. Don’t beat yourself up for messing up. Pat yourself on the back for figuring it out.

You need to encourage yourself. You need to pump yourself up. You need to be your own cheerleader. Why? Because you can’t wait and hope that someone else will come along and cheer you up… make you feel better… tell you that you’ll do better next time. You have to rely on yourself. You have to have faith in yourself and your ability to figure out what works and what doesn’t. You have to have the inner belief that everything you’re doing, you’re doing for a positive outcome in the future. You have to encourage yourself with future successes.

Cheer yourself on to victory. You can do it.

Many thanks,

– B.Coester

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